Life is constantly changing and we all go through transitions, trying our best to keep up with the flow. Changes often cause us to reassess our values or priorities, asking ourselves what should we do with our life. Remember that you are not alone, it happens to all of us.
If you’ve ever moved before, then you know that moving is one of the biggest life changes. It is much more than a simple relocating your belongings from one place to another. Whenever you move, you leave a part of your old life behind and begin a new page of your life somewhere else. The good side is that moving allows you to say goodbye to the negative aspects of your old lifestyle and a chance to start over.
Let’s walk through a few things that happen to anyone who is moving, and find out what changes we can expect.
The stress level while moving a household may hit the ceiling. To make it less stressful than it usually is, sit down, take a deep breath, and make a good plan. No good will come out if you’re running around in circles.
One of the most important things is deciding what belongings you’ll bring with you. And it will be the first struggle you have to face. If you take a smart approach and get rid of the stuff you are not using for at least a year, you won’t end up in a mess. Throw away overused or old items, and donate or sell the ones in a good state. In that way, moving won’t cost you a fortune, and your new place will have plenty of free space for more needed items. More important, you will use everything that you move with you. Hiring packing professionals or reliable moving experts can save you from a lot of stress.
It’s easy to take a piece of your favorite furniture and bring it to your new home, but what about the people you leave behind? It’s never easy to leave good friends and good memories behind, no matter how close or far you are moving. Yes, you can visit each other whenever you have free time, or call each other every day, but be mentally prepared that it won’t be the same.
Our identities develop in different places, day by day. If we move from one country to another, or from the rural to the urban area, the changes are more noticeable and the process of adaptation might last longer. Someone who grew up in a rural part of the U.S will not be the same person after a few years in D.C. of New York City.
To fit into a new place, we most likely adopt local ideas or behavior, while at the same time we influence people around us a little bit too. It goes in both ways. The process of identity transformation never stops.
How much will your lifestyle change after moving depends on where you live and where you move. It’s important to consider the kind of lifestyle you want when you move to a new place.
Are you prepared well for the difference in cost of living? Estimating your budget is very important when you move. Prices and general costs are different in urban and rural areas, living in the big cities is usually more expensive than in smaller towns, and also, different states have their prices and tax rules. Florida, for example, has no state taxes, which means more money in your wallet. Renting an apartment downtown is always the most expensive option, and you should consider living close to your workplace if you have a job in a hand.
One thing that is usually underestimated is getting around in a new city. Public transportation is not the same everywhere, it varies from city to city, and it is important if you find an apartment away from downtown or the center of the town. If you’re living further out, you’ll more likely spend more money on transport. If you own a car, consider parking costs and maintenance.
Starting over in a city where you don’t know anyone is thrilling and scary at the same time. Without people to hang out with, you might feel lonely in the first days. Keep yourself busy and the time will fly. When you figure out basics like how to get to your workplace without getting lost, or back to your apartment without issues, it’s time to create a new routine or make new friends.
Choose a coffee shop or restaurant you like near your apartment, and visit it on regular basis. Let the bartenders know you, and don’t be shy to start small talks with locals. People are usually friendly and curious, and most of them will be more than happy to share a few words with someone new. This will give you a “local” feeling and a kind of stability.
To find new friends, you have to hang out with lots of people before you find some you’ll click with. Grab a chance and start small talks with people whenever and wherever you have a chance. Talk with your co-workers and neighbors, offer them a helping hand, and accept their offers.
Moving to a new place usually comes with a lot of expectations about how will your new life look like, but you should encourage yourself to expand your expectations and open yourself to new experiences. Start doing something new, or get a new hobby. Look for fun and ask where different events are held. Walk through a couple of them and you’ll be one step closer to the perfect life you want.
Don’t stop to explore the new place, even when you settle in comfortably. You have moved for a reason, and more exploring means more discovered things you love about a new place. Soon enough, you’ll call it “home”.
So, inevitably, your lifestyle changes after moving. And you change, too. It’s up to you will those changes make your life better or worse. All the best!